Is infidelity in?. In urban India marriages don’t come with a lifetime warranty anymore. Fidelity is no longer an essential ingredient in a lot of
modern marriages.
Tiger Woods might have lost his reputation and wife, but not everyone feels it’s wrong to be attracted to the opposite sex or even have an affair while one is still in a serious relationship. Hollywood actress Angelina Jolie even went on record saying, “I doubt that fidelity is essential for a relationship.”
Agreeing with her are today’s urban youth who seem to endorse the view that marriage is “an exercise in hypocrisy, where infidelity is bound to creep in” and it is fine to opt for pre-nuptial contracts and live-ins (the latter is perceived to be a more “honest” option). “Do whatever makes you happy” says filmmaker Rahul Aggarwal, who is of the firm view that societal norms make no sense. “I think what happens between two people is their business and their understanding. No third person can decide for them. So if they want to be unfaithful or faithful, it’s their personal choice,” he says.
Not many though subscribe to the view. Actress Celina Jaitley says, “Nothing is nobler or more venerable than fidelity. Faithfulness and truth are the most sacred excellences and endowments of the human mind. Every business, relationship, in fact every profession’s basic foundation is trust and loyalty. Fidelity is what differentiates us from animals.” Echoing her views is Sameera Reddy, who says, “I’m strictly against infidelity. Without trust, there’s no relationship. “Subscribing to the same thought is Tollywood actor Krishnudu who quips, “No faithfulness? It’s no marriage then. People who have no intention of being loyal to their partner better not marry,” he says. Actress Madhurima is of the firm view that “one should respect one’s commitments” and that applies not just to one area of life but to all others as well.
Psychologist Sujatha Raman succinctly puts it like this, “Unless there is a commitment, relationships don’t happen in the first place.” With people turning out to be increasingly commitment phobic people don’t seem to have the time to invest in a long-term relationship she observes and ascribes it to the dil maange more attitude that’s on the rise — “People are constantly looking for better options. We are always out looking for the perfect partner, but oblivious to our own imperfections,” she says.
Dr Prabhakar Korada says, “There are men and women who suffer from a personality disorder — they are hypersexual with a constant roving eye. These people get into affairs because of low self esteem and the need to project a much-in-demand image. The second category is of those living with an incompatible partner. These people can be helped through counselling. But that does not condone infidelity. Infidelity is nothing but deceit. ” ( indiatimes.com )
Tiger Woods might have lost his reputation and wife, but not everyone feels it’s wrong to be attracted to the opposite sex or even have an affair while one is still in a serious relationship. Hollywood actress Angelina Jolie even went on record saying, “I doubt that fidelity is essential for a relationship.”
Agreeing with her are today’s urban youth who seem to endorse the view that marriage is “an exercise in hypocrisy, where infidelity is bound to creep in” and it is fine to opt for pre-nuptial contracts and live-ins (the latter is perceived to be a more “honest” option). “Do whatever makes you happy” says filmmaker Rahul Aggarwal, who is of the firm view that societal norms make no sense. “I think what happens between two people is their business and their understanding. No third person can decide for them. So if they want to be unfaithful or faithful, it’s their personal choice,” he says.
Not many though subscribe to the view. Actress Celina Jaitley says, “Nothing is nobler or more venerable than fidelity. Faithfulness and truth are the most sacred excellences and endowments of the human mind. Every business, relationship, in fact every profession’s basic foundation is trust and loyalty. Fidelity is what differentiates us from animals.” Echoing her views is Sameera Reddy, who says, “I’m strictly against infidelity. Without trust, there’s no relationship. “Subscribing to the same thought is Tollywood actor Krishnudu who quips, “No faithfulness? It’s no marriage then. People who have no intention of being loyal to their partner better not marry,” he says. Actress Madhurima is of the firm view that “one should respect one’s commitments” and that applies not just to one area of life but to all others as well.
Psychologist Sujatha Raman succinctly puts it like this, “Unless there is a commitment, relationships don’t happen in the first place.” With people turning out to be increasingly commitment phobic people don’t seem to have the time to invest in a long-term relationship she observes and ascribes it to the dil maange more attitude that’s on the rise — “People are constantly looking for better options. We are always out looking for the perfect partner, but oblivious to our own imperfections,” she says.
Dr Prabhakar Korada says, “There are men and women who suffer from a personality disorder — they are hypersexual with a constant roving eye. These people get into affairs because of low self esteem and the need to project a much-in-demand image. The second category is of those living with an incompatible partner. These people can be helped through counselling. But that does not condone infidelity. Infidelity is nothing but deceit. ” ( indiatimes.com )
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